In Islam Guideline to talk to people. Islam has laid down some specific rules on how a Muslim should talk to people. In all cases, a Muslim must remember with unwavering faith that he must be held accountable for every word he utters. If he says something good, he will be rewarded. And if he says something bad, he will inevitably be punished for it. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “not a word does a person utter without having a ˹vigilant˺ observer ready ˹to write it down˺.[ Surah Qaf: 18 ]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned us that word of mouth is very dangerous. Imam At-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah and compiled by Sahih Hadith reported the Messenger of Allah said: “The man of importance so that he does not say a lot of words, but it is pleasing to God. As a result, Allah increased his dignity by it. On the other hand, the servant often says things that he does not care about but that displeases God. As a result, that word threw him into hell. ”[Bukhari; Chapter: 8, Volume: 76, Hadith: 485]
So word of mouth can be a cause of danger. We have to control our speech from within the boundaries of Islam as directed by Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him).
Here are some guidelines on how to talk to people in an Islamic manner:
1) The purpose of speaking should be good and beneficial. If you can’t maintain the purpose of good speech, it is better for you to keep quiet. Compiled by Al-Bukhari and Muslim tradition, the Prophet (peace be upon him 🙂 said: ” Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good, or remain silent. ”[Bukhari; 6136]
2) Be truthful in speech and refrain from lying. Because the believer is always truthful who does not lie even in jest. In another hadith of Bukhari and Muslim, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: ‘Abdullah reported Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: It is obligatory for you to tell the truth, for the truth leads to virtue and virtue leads to Paradise, and the man who continues to speak the truth and endeavors, to tell the truth, is eventually recorded as truthful with Allah, and beware of telling of a lie for telling of a lie leads to obscenity and obscenity leads to Hell-Fire, and the person who keeps telling lies and endeavors to tell a lie is recorded as a liar with Allah.[Muslim; Hadith: 2607]
3) It is not permissible to contradict ith Allah through with your speech – whether it is for sports or for motives. Because Allah hates the disobedient evil speaker. One way to do Kufr is through every word that Allah does not like. Such as: using obscene and vulgar words, insulting people in vulgar language, etc. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned us in a Saheeh hadeeth about this: Another Saheeh hadeeth says, “Blasphemy is kufr for a Muslim.” It is forbidden to insult a living person, just as it is forbidden to insult a dead person. “Do not curse the dead; They have received their reward. ” In another hadith, the Prophet (peace be upon him) instructed, “Discuss the good deeds of the dead.”
4) When talking, stay away from backbiting. Gossip is when a Muslim, in the absence of others, says something about him that hurts him. Therefore, do not gossip. Stay away from Gossip too. Gossip is the dissemination of information among the people which causes mutual hatred among them. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said in a hadeeth narrated in a Saheeh source, “Whoever spreads rumors will never enter Paradise.” Secretly forbid those who practice Gossip and stay away from listening to them. Otherwise, you will share in that sin just for the sake of listening.
5) Avoid swearing verbally. In this regard, Allah (SWT) says in Surah Al-Baqarah: “ Do not use Allah’s Name in your oaths as an excuse for not doing good, not guarding against evil, or not making peace between people. And Allah is All-Hearing, All-Knowing.”[ Al-Baqara: 224 ]
7) It is not possible to talk to people about what they have heard without being sure. Because you can hear something that can be true or false or doubtful. If you preach what you hear, you will be a partner in sin. According to a pure hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned: “It is enough for a man to be a liar that he preaches what he hears. [Sahih Muslim 1/6, Hadith 5; Sunan Abu Daud 2/61, Hadith 4982]
8) Keep in mind that the purpose of your conversations with people should be to reach the truth. Let the truth be revealed through you and also through others – do not exaggerate by whom it was revealed. In this case, reaching the truth is the big thing.
9) Refrain from engaging in pointless arguments for the purpose of belittling others and winning over others. Engaging in pointless arguments is a sign of deviance. From this, we seek refuge in Allah. Saying compiled by Tirmidhi Hadith of the Prophet (peace be upon him, said 🙂 ” God led them astray, he is not without a reason, but they are engaged in tarkatarkite. Avoid controversy even if you are right. In a hadith narrated by Abu Dawood, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
Narrated AbuUmamah: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: I guarantee a house in the surroundings of Paradise for a man who avoids quarreling even if he were in the right, a house in the middle of Paradise for a man who avoids lying even if he were joking, and a house in the upper part of Paradise for a man who made his character good.”[Abu Dawood; Chapter: 41, Hadith: 4800]
10. Your words will be clear, easy to understand, free from incomprehensible words. If not necessary, avoid rhetoric and refrain from saying anything for the purpose of humiliating people. Because the Prophet (peace be upon him) disliked such words. In another Saheeh hadeeth compiled by At-Tirmidhi, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “ Those whom I hate the most, and who will be the farthest from me on the Day of Resurrection, Present themselves (erudition) while speaking. ”[At-Tirmidhi; Hadith: 631]
11) Your words will be calm in nature, clear, audible and understandable to the general public. The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to repeat a word three times for the convenience of everyone. His words were simple which everyone could understand.
12) Be sincere in speech. Don’t joke unnecessarily. If you want to bring humor in a speech, bring it in the way that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) used to do.
1 3 ) Do not interrupt the words of others. If someone wants to say something, listen carefully and let him finish. After listening to him, tell him if you have something good and really necessary to say. Don’t just talk.
14) Talk and argue – it must be done in the best way. In this way, no one should be harmed, no one should be hurt emotionally, no one should be humiliated or ridiculed. People have been instructed to speak beautifully through all the prophets. When Allah (SWT) sent Moses (PBUH) and his brother Aaron (PBUH) to Pharaoh, He said to them: “ Speak to him gently, so perhaps he may be mindful ˹of Me˺ or fearful ˹of My punishment˺.”. [ Sura Taha: 44 ]
Needless to say, you are no better than Moses (peace be upon him), and Aaron (peace be upon him). And the man you are talking to is no worse than Pharaoh.
15. Do not reject the words of others completely, especially when you see that what they are saying contains some false or false information, as well as some amount of correct or true information. Because the right part should not be rejected at all, even if it is presented with a mistake. In the same way, the truth should not be rejected at all, even if it is presented mixed with falsehood. You have to accept the right and the true and give up the wrong and the false. This is justice and fairness that God has instructed us to do.
16) In front of people do not praise yourself, do not give yourself credit. Because doing so is indicative of arrogant behavior which Allah has forbidden us to do. He said: “ So do not ˹falsely˺ elevate yourselves. He knows best who is ˹truly˺ righteous.[ Surah An-Najm: 32 ]